We all hear it often, yet it just doesn’t seem to have a strong penetrating power into one’s life. The phrase “believe in yourself” may sound typically simple, yet it portrays a powerful message to each and one of us. If one put full use of that phrase in their daily life, they would find a different side of them. The side that was stored deep inside a person for quite sometime. Before I go into the ways of developing good self-confidence, let me share with you the reasons some people lack this optimistic spirit.

Firstly, some people might just be shy or afraid of the outcomes of their actions. Scared of making mistakes. The thought of your voice cracking while poetry reading or your knees trembling when you’re presenting in front of your teachers are just frightening. To make matters worse, the audience might laugh at your mistakes. Making you feel so embarrassed that you wish you haven’t accepted the job or responsibility. Now that’s bad news for some people. But think about it. Why should we be afraid of mistakes?

Look at the inventor, Thomas Edison, the man responsible for creating the light bulb. He had failed hundreds of times in his experiments, but in the end he succeeded. How many times did he succeed? Once. How? By learning from the mistakes he made in his previous attempts. However, there are people who find making mistakes will only make them look foolish in the sight of everyone. How wrong they were. They do not learn from the determination people like Thomas Edison have.

Secondly, some people may lack self-confidence because of emotional problems that they face. These people are often criticized badly by others. For example, parents who often scold and insult their children, not giving them chance to expose their characters or gifts may cause them to lose their self-confidence. This will eventually make them afraid to voice out their thoughts and opinions, thus making them afraid to express their talents and knowledge.

The effects of these will make them seclude themselves from society and they end up choosing to just be an introvert. These people may also be very quiet and scared of meeting new people in school and it’s hard for them to make friends. They are alone during recess or any extracurricular activities because they feel that they will only make a fool out of themselves in front of his/her schoolmates. Being criticized by classmates and teachers had made them decide to just keep quiet and live in their own solitary world.

There are ways to overcome these problems. The most important is to be brave and be ready to face mistakes. We always hear people saying everyone makes mistakes. It is true and applies to you and me. We learn from our mistakes and that should be the ones that lift our hopes up. Add a little self-ego and you’ll be sure to challenge yourself by not committing the same errors in the future. Always expect the good out of your actions. Being optimistic will boost your confidence level.

Also, don’t compare yourself too much to others. You can learn from them but don’t be afraid of those you feel that are better than you. You will never know what the outcome is unless you face it. So, try to beat your classmates at being the first to answer questions addressed by the teacher. Although some teachers might punish you for giving wrong answers, just tell yourself that “at least you tried” and realize that you’re wrong.

Other than that, I believe that every one of us needs support. Not financially of course, but moral and spiritual support. Family members or loved ones play a big role in boosting the confidence of a person. Parents and siblings should help one another by showing their trust and faith in what we do. Friends can also be the ones that motivate us, to help us achieve our goal by cracking the shell that blocks us from expressing our views. People should not insult the mistakes; instead look at it at another view. For example, take the embarrassment you faced as a funny experience that you can openly share and laugh about with your friends.

Also, you should try to avoid being so shy with your thoughts and views. Stupid and nonsense ideas may be worth something for all we know. But, share your thoughts with your peers first. Develop your self-confidence slowly from a low-level. Don’t rush into things or be overconfident. Don’t feel that you are the best at everything. Discover your own limitations and try to strengthen your weaknesses.

Always remember that self-confidence gives you the freedom to make mistakes and cope with failure without feeling that your world has come to an end or that you are a worthless person.

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